A one-on-one experience to help you understand the protection underneath
the patterns you keep repeating and how it actually shows up in your life.
Two private sessions + personalized preparation · $147
Which means the thing you keep trying to stop doing probably makes more sense than you think it does.
Maybe you go quiet when something needs to be said, immediately start explaining yourself, or become incredibly helpful when what you really need is help. Maybe you take control, keep the peace, disappear, perform, fix, prepare for every possible outcome, or say “It's fine” while absolutely nothing about you thinks it is fine.
These patterns aren't random. They developed for a reason. And understanding that reason can change the way you relate to yourself when they show up.
Instead of only asking, Why do I keep doing this? we can start getting curious about a different question:
What is this pattern trying to do for me?
That's where The Pattern Map begins.
The Pattern Map is a one-on-one experience where we take what you know about your patterns and make it specific to your actual life.
We'll use the Enneagram as a map and shared language, but we're not stopping at your type. We're looking at your patterns, your reactions, your relationships, and what your protection has learned to do for you.
Because knowing your pattern is one thing.
Seeing how it operates in your life is something different.
You know a lot about yourself, but there are still reactions or behaviors you don't completely understand.
You've done therapy, coaching, Enneagram work, self-help, or other personal development and still find yourself thinking, I know I do this. Why am I still doing it?
Maybe you know your Enneagram type and you're ready to go beyond the description. Or maybe you've spent years collecting information about yourself and what you really want now is the chance to sit down with another person and look at what's actually happening.
You don't have to have it all figured out before you get here. That's kind of the point.
Maybe you've known your type for years. Maybe you have a pretty good idea but aren't completely sure. Maybe you've taken three different tests and gotten three different answers. Which is always fun. Or maybe you're relatively new to the Enneagram.
We'll start with a 30-minute conversation so I can understand where you are, what you already know about yourself, and what you're hoping to understand. From there, I'll create your preparation for our deeper session.
Depending on where you are in the process, I may ask you to take an Enneagram assessment. I don't use an assessment as a final answer about your type. It's a starting point. It gives us a map, some shared language, and information we can get curious about together.
If you already know your type and feel confident in it, your preparation may look completely different.
The point isn't to get you to a number. The point is to use what we learn to better understand you.
We'll meet for a private 30-minute conversation. This isn't a discovery call. It's the beginning of your Pattern Map.
I want to know what you already understand about your patterns, where you tend to get stuck, what keeps happening, and what you're most curious about.
After our conversation, I'll send you some personalized preparation for our longer session.
What that looks like depends on you, what we talked about, and what would be most useful for us to explore before we meet again.
I'm not going to give everyone the same homework and call it personalized.
Then we'll meet again for 75–90 minutes.
By then, I'm not meeting you cold. I've heard some of your story. You've had some things to notice. And we have somewhere meaningful to start.
We'll look at how your protection strategy tends to show up, what sets it in motion, what it has helped you get, keep, or avoid, and what happens as the pattern starts doing what it knows how to do.
We're looking for the thread underneath the behavior.
Depending on what comes up for you, that could mean looking at the protection strategy you rely on most, where it shows up, what happens under stress, how it affects your relationships and communication, what you notice in your body, what the pattern may be trying to protect, and what it has helped you get, keep, or avoid.
And we'll get curious about what happens before the part you usually notice.
Because the goal isn't to get rid of your personality or turn you into the healthiest possible version of an Enneagram number.
It's to notice when the pattern stops being a choice.
Reading about yourself while drinking coffee on a Sunday morning can be incredibly illuminating. Yep. That's me. Wow. Called out.
Then Tuesday happens.
Someone says something. Something shifts. Your protection strategy does exactly what it has practiced doing for years. And twenty minutes later, your self-awareness catches up. Ohhhhh. There it is.
That's the gap I'm interested in.
The Pattern Map doesn't promise you'll never repeat a pattern again. It gives us a chance to understand that pattern more precisely, including what happens before the behavior you usually notice.
Because awareness is incredibly useful. But awareness and protection aren't always operating on the same timeline.
I don't want you to leave knowing more about the Enneagram. I want you to leave knowing more about you.
I want you to have a clearer understanding of your protection strategy, how it has been operating in your actual life, where it tends to show up, and what it may be trying to accomplish.
I want you to start recognizing what happens when the pattern gets activated, what your earlier cues might look or feel like, and where you may have more room for choice than you realized.
Because when you can see what's happening more clearly, you have more information to work with.
The goal of this work isn’t to hand you another label or tell you what’s wrong with you. It’s to help you understand your patterns with more clarity, less shame, and more room for choice.
"Deb helped me understand the why behind my results instead of just telling me who I was. She gave me space to discover it for myself and reflect on how the patterns actually show up in my life. I really valued the depth and skill she brought to the process.”
"I had taken the Enneagram test but didn’t really know where to go from there. I had questions, but the resources I found weren’t helping me understand myself in the way I needed. Working with Deb gave me a much clearer understanding of myself and helped me make sense of what I was seeing."
"What was most valuable was being able to understand myself and why I react certain ways. It also helped me understand other people better."
$147
30-minute private conversation
We'll start with where you are, what you already know, and what you're curious about.
Personalized preparation
This may include an Enneagram assessment or reflection work based on what would actually be useful for you.
75–90 minute private Pattern Map session
We'll take what we've learned and look at how your protection strategy is showing up in your life.
The full experience usually happens over one to two weeks, depending on our schedules and what you need between sessions.
No. We may spend some time figuring out your Enneagram type if you aren't sure about it. Your type gives us a useful map for understanding the protection strategy you may rely on.
But we're not doing all of this just to land on a number.
I want to know what that pattern looks like on you.
Yes. This is actually where I think the work gets really interesting.
You can know exactly what your type tends to do and still wonder why you shut down in one relationship, overfunction in another, struggle to ask for what you want, or react so strongly to certain things.
We don't need to spend our time teaching you things you already know. We get to make it personal.
That's completely fine.
Depending on what comes up in our first conversation, I may ask you to take an Enneagram assessment before our longer session. The assessment doesn't get the final say. We'll use it as a starting point and look at what fits, what doesn't, and what your actual experience tells us.
Nope.
If you've already completed one or both, great. We'll have some shared language and we can build on what you've already been learning.
If you haven't, you can still book The Pattern Map. We'll start wherever you are.
No. The Pattern Map is a coaching and educational experience focused on self-awareness, patterns, and personal development. It isn't mental health treatment or diagnosis and isn't a substitute for therapy.
You'll have a 30-minute initial conversation, some preparation between sessions, and a 75–90 minute Pattern Map session.
Most people will complete the whole process within one to two weeks, depending on scheduling.
You may need a different way of seeing what you already know.
Because there comes a point when another book, podcast episode, assessment, Instagram post, or very enlightening conversation with your best friend isn't going to give you the specificity you're looking for.
Sometimes you need another human sitting across from you saying, “Wait. Let's look at that.”
Let's look at what happened. What you noticed. What you did. What your body did. What you were trying to protect.
Not because we need to find something wrong with you. Because your pattern makes sense.
And when you can see it more clearly, you have more information to work with.