Be Curious, Not Judgmental: What Ted Lasso Can Teach Us About the Enneagram

There’s a moment in Ted Lasso—one of those quietly brilliant scenes—where Coach Lasso quotes Walt Whitman:
“Be curious, not judgmental.”

It’s one of those lines that sticks with you.

As human beings, we’re wired to judge—ourselves, others, even our growth.
We criticize our flaws, second-guess our reactions, and tell ourselves we should be further along.
But when it comes to real transformation—especially when using a tool like the Enneagram—judgment doesn’t help us grow.
Curiosity does.

🌱 Why Curiosity Matters

When we approach ourselves with curiosity instead of critique, something shifts.

We begin to ask:

• Why do I react this way?

• What am I afraid of?

• What need am I trying to meet here?

That’s where self-awareness begins—not in fixing what’s wrong, but in gently noticing what’s underneath.

Curiosity is what allows us to make aligned choices, build self-trust, and move forward from a place of compassion instead of pressure.

💛 How the Enneagram Fits In

The Enneagram isn’t here to box you in—it’s here to open you up.
It’s not about labeling your flaws. It’s about recognizing the beautiful, protective patterns you developed to get through life—and deciding which ones you’re ready to loosen.

But that only works if you come with an open mind and a tender heart.

🔍 How to Practice Curiosity With Your Enneagram Type

1. Hold your type lightly.
   Your type is a lens, not your whole identity. You are more than a number.
   

2. Ask questions, not judgments.
   Instead of “Why do I always do this?”, try “What is this part of me trying to protect?”
   

3. Seek deeper understanding, not perfection.
   Use books, podcasts, workshops—or work with a coach (like me!) to explore your type with compassion.
   

4. Shift when self-criticism creeps in.
   Try asking:

   • What can I learn from this moment?

   • What would it look like to meet myself with kindness right now?

🌀 Why It Matters

When we choose curiosity, we don’t avoid the hard stuff—we just meet it differently.

We soften.
We open.
We grow.

And when we do this with ourselves, we naturally extend it to others too—building deeper connection and empathy, one small moment at a time.

Ready to explore your Enneagram type with a curious heart and a grounded body?
Let’s begin that journey together.

✨ You can explore a typing sessions or simply start noticing your patterns with more gentleness.

There’s no rush. No pressure. Just presence.
Let’s be curious, not judgmental. 💛